Share your feelings.
This has been a tough week. You can list so many things that you wish your teenage son had done differently. Ask yourself why is that?
Is he doing so many things wrong or just differently than you would do them? It is hard to visualize your child as someone with different views than yours.
When you feel you need to step in with some guidance, try to choose your words carefully. For instance, instead of saying, “You are wrong, you should not, cannot do this…” Try saying, “It upsets and confuses me when you do this. I do not understand the reasoning behind your decision. Can you explain it to me?”
Your main goal is to raise your son to be his own person, to lead a good life where he will be on his own and not need you. You will get there. When it happens it will be a mixed blessing. You will have accomplished this goal but it will feel like he is no longer yours.
Look at it this way, you will have sent out into the world a wonderful person with new ideas and a confident spirit. Remember, Children are our Future, and you are helping our future to be a great place.
There you go. Another lesson for today. Now, go and love your son in your own special way. Some days are long but, trust me, the years will just disappear.
Love,
MarnaKay
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