Letting Go.
Letting Go means different things in different scenarios. Letting Go to a parent simply means you have done your job. Get prepared. It is time. Your son will be on his own very soon. He will always need you and want you in his life but in a much different way, a grown up way. You have to let go so he can move forward into this new wonderful phase of his life.
I know, it may not be so wonderful for you. Your home will be too quiet. You will go in his empty room and your eyes will fill with tears.
I am betting that no one took you aside in that hospital room 18 years ago and whispered in your ear, I want to tell you this story. Today your new baby boy is totally dependent on you, but from today forward, your goal is to make him independent of you. You will teach him everything. You will marvel at all his achievements. You will burst with pride. He will become all that he can be. Now, listen to me closely, you will have to be all that you can be, because you will have to send him off without you into his new world.
You will wait for the phone to ring. You will be excited when you see his name pop up on your cell phone. You will count the days till he will be home for Christmas. You will search wildly for just the right gift for him. It probably won’t fit and he may not like it but that does not matter. You are wrapping love in that gift.
Slowly, you will get used to this new phase in your life. You will even enjoy it, but sometimes you will think of all those crazy, busy days. You will remember fondly how your world revolved around your children and your family. You were so busy you could not catch your breath and yet I am betting that you will tell a friend, as I have done, “Those were the best years.”
You have now just had a view of your past and your future.
There you go. Another lesson for today. Now, go and love your son in your own special way. Some days are long but, trust me, the years will just disappear.
Love,
MarnaKay
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